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There are a number of guilt-inflicting comments that I’ve heard, as someone who has suffered from a long-standing, well-publicized eating disorder:

  • “oh, you’re so thin. you need to eat something.”
  • “how do i get skinny, like you?”
  • “well, so and so, they’re obvioulsly bulimic, i mean, they’re your size.”
  • “obviously, you need to get over this because you’ll just teach your daughter it’s okay. you don’t want that for her, do you?”
  • “being anorexic is just a cry for help.”
  • “you’re not fat. there, do you feel better?”

    • eating disorders, though triggered by external stresses, the media or so-called “attention pleas” are rarely ever about the individual wanting more. they’re often about thinking you deserve less. less than others. the world. because you didn’t do something right, maybe, or failed in someway. the numbers on the scale - a symptom of a much bigger problem.

    This is my first entry as the new author at eating disorder talk. What types of comments have you heard?


    Posted in General on June 12th, 2007

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    3 Responses to “don’t ask me, i just work here”

    1. finally, some damn money « from manic to mommy? Says:
      June 13th, 2007 at 4:00 am

      [...] here is my link, to my very first paying blog job - one that will hold me to 5 posts a week, minimum. come hit me [...]

    2. Jack Smynde Says:
      June 13th, 2007 at 10:52 am

      I heard the same ones back in the day. I never heard anything helpful, though. Except “I love you.”

    3. Kelly Says:
      June 14th, 2007 at 8:06 am

      I heard the opposite. I had an eating disorder - bulimia - which increased as more and more folks would comment on my weight because I wasn’t skinny.

      My favorite? “You’d be such a pretty girl if you’d lose some weight.”

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