There are a number of guilt-inflicting comments that I’ve heard, as someone who has suffered from a long-standing, well-publicized eating disorder:
“oh, you’re so thin. you need to eat something.”
“how do i get skinny, like you?”
“well, so and so, they’re obvioulsly bulimic, i mean, they’re your size.”
“obviously, you need to get over this because you’ll just teach your daughter it’s okay. you don’t want that for her, do you?”
“being anorexic is just a cry for help.”
“you’re not fat. there, do you feel better?”
eating disorders, though triggered by external stresses, the media or so-called “attention pleas” are rarely ever about the individual wanting more. they’re often about thinking you deserve less. less than others. the world. because you didn’t do something right, maybe, or failed in someway. the numbers on the scale - a symptom of a much bigger problem.
This is my first entry as the new author at eating disorder talk. What types of comments have you heard?